My Wife Wants Me to Choose Between Brotherhood and Our Marriage

Ken and I built a strong friendship. We ate together, visited each other, and supported each other through difficult times. He is the kind of person who would share his last meal or his last money. His loyalty is not something you question.

Yes, Ken likes women. In fact, he likes women the way a cat likes meat. He is married, but he carries women matters on his head. Still, I do not see him as a bad person. He is flawed, but he is present when it matters.

Ken is the closest thing to family I have here. In times of need, he is the one who shows up. I have explained this to my wife.

She is asking me to choose between the brotherhood and my marriage. It is a hard thing to do. It is a difficult place to be. I am not a woman who can easily end friendships based on feelings, and these are people who have stood by me beyond ordinary friendship.

Ken talks too much. Ken mostly thinks with his desires. But he is also the friend you lean on when life becomes heavy.

I have tried to explain to my wife that asking me to choose is like me asking her to cut off her own friends simply because she is married now. It will only create unnecessary tension.

So I am here.

I have a new bride at home who thinks my friend’s behaviour will rub off on me. I say no. I am a man of my own wisdom. I did not take his advice when he said that. I do not mind it. It is you I wanted and you I married.